Women are not only driven by their emotions, they also like to discuss their emotions with their boy friend. When a group of women are together, they nearly always talk about emotional involvement, with their man, their family or their children.

However, when it comes to the person they most want to talk about emotions with, their boy friend, in most relationships it is the women who initiates any conversation about emotions and usually they have to push their boy friend to talk about love or anything to do with their own emotions.

Asked to talk about her experiences in a relationship, a woman is able to relate all the details from one boy friend to the next, from the first date to the date they broke off, or became engaged. When a man proposes, he can be certain that his girl friend will make an excuse to rush off as quickly as possible, she just can't wait to phone her family and friends with the exciting news!

Because women need to talk about their emotions it is natural they form a network of friends, which may include men as well as their women friends. This network is usually able to provide great emotional support when it is needed, such as when a woman has broken off with her boy friend. Apart from lending a sympathetic ear to the sad story, the friends in the network will make helpful suggestions.

Just by sharing her emotional pain with friends a woman will usually calm down and move on quickly. Unfortunately the emotional network does not always work positively for women, for a number of reasons it may be negative, or even destructive to a relationship.

For example, during the process of getting closer, both the man and woman will realise that there are differences between them and sometimes these differences will make them feel uncomfortable. However, instead of communicating their discomfort to their boy friends, some women go to their emotional support network of friends and complain. Quite often the incidents they complain about are very minor, or even just their own imagination, but, to be supportive, friends will give all sort of advice. If the perspective is from the friend's own negative experience, or jealousy, or even inexperience, a minor incident can suddenly become a big issue, a big issue becomes a big problem, and the big problem becomes the reason for an unnecessary break-up. In this case the network has created opposite result to what the woman would have wished.

It can also happen that, when a woman is in a happy relationship and tries to share her happiness with her friends, she may be warned by those friends who have had a bad experience in their own relationships. These warnings or 'advice' makes the woman vulnerable and sensitive.

Although men know and accept that women like to talk about their boy friends with their emotional network of friends, they may find it quite annoying when they learn that their girl friend has complained about them to her friends. It can also be destructive if their girl friend listens to friends but not them.

Men may not like it, but apart from it being natural for women to have an emotional network of friends, the main reason for women to go to their network is that their boy friend refuses to talk about his own emotions. In fact, many men become bored or just act bored when their girl friends talk about emotions.

Women know that men are not good at talking about emotions, but without knowing what is in their mind, women feel insecure in the relationship and become vulnerable. They need someone to talk to as well as someone to listen to about their emotions.

It would help if men realised that women get very excited about relationships and their own emotional involvement and want to talk about it. The best person to share their excitement with is their partner and it will always help if men try to be more sensitive about their girl friend's emotional needs. It is not necessary to say "I love you" all the time, but it helps to be more attentive when their girl friend is talking about her emotions. Looking into her eyes and holding her hands will reassure her that she is loved and cared about.

At the same time, men should try to learn to be more honest and open about their own emotions. If they and truly love their girl friend, they should tell them. As far as the girl friend is concerned, it is impossible for her boy friend to say those three words too often.

It is a win- win situation, because, knowing what her boy friend is thinking and feeling, the women will feel safe, excited and content and her emotional satisfaction will usually make her more loving and caring.

Men should understand : if you choose the person as your life-time partner, don't leave it to others to explain your emotions to her, you owe it to her and yourself to tell her yourself.