Many modern men will not be interested in women who can only offer them a pretty face. They will be bored if a woman only likes to stay home and cook. In modern society, women can go to university, women get equal pay, women can join political parties, women can run businesses and women can become successful. This change has also changed people's perception about women. Consequently men start having different expectations of to their women.
Many men have found that women who have their own career are more interesting than house wives. They find it much easier to communicate with career women. Also, they become stimulated by the occasional judgment and by the perspective, which women have. In their eyes, the success of a woman is quite admirable. They are curious to discover what else lies inside these women. Their interest in their girlfriends or their wives goes beyond mere sexual attraction.
I remember Henry who joined our service a few years ago. Henry was very successful. He employed couple of hundred people in his organization. He had a beautiful wife, who was gentle and soft. Everyday she stayed home cooking. When he came back home, dinner was served, clothes were washed and ironed. But he couldn't talk much to his wife. Because his wife didn't understand what he talked about. The communication was very much one-way. Sometimes he didn't even want to go home. Home was boring. By the end, he filed for a divorce. He felt guilty about that, because the wife didn't do anything wrong to him. In the meantime he felt as if he'd been released from a prison.
Staying home to look after kids temporarily is good. But a woman staying home throughout the entire married life can be risky for the marriage.
Gloria was an attractive lady. She married Kevin who was successful, caring. After marriage, she chose to stay home, having a baby while her husband went out working. Everyday life to her was stress-free, but boring. She rang her husband 10 times a day, just wanting to have a chat. Sometimes he could not talk, so she got upset.
At the beginning of their marriage, Kevin was employed by a large organization and held a senior position. So he took Gloria to many business functions. She enjoyed the glamour, and outings. Knowing Gloria was getting bored, he bought her a brand-new BMW, giving her a credit card for her to go shopping freely.
After having a baby, Kevin finished his contract. The new company he worked for didn't have business functions, and this gave him the opportunity to go home right after work.
While staying home the whole day, Gloria wanted to go out. She needed all the attention from the husband. Kevin did try his best. But sometimes he was very stressful and tired, just wanting to stay home. Sometimes he wanted to be quiet, or played with the baby. Gloria got annoyed. She nagged on small issues and became demanding and intolerable. The worst thing was she lost physical interest in Kevin. She told her friends that Kevin was too old for her.
Apart from the mental stimulation, many men admire financially independent women. Modern men would find it difficult to marry a woman if he knows that, financially, she expects 100% support from him. It is not a team, not a partner, but a dependent. Career women have the ability to team up with their men and build up the financial success together. By doing so, both people appreciate good financial management; both enjoy the life style they create.
Of course the legal system is another concern for men if they have a dependent at home.
