Quite often, I ask myself a question: We only come to this world once, what we are here for? I closed my eyes imaging the end of my day. Would I have any regrets if I have never been a millionaire? I shacked my head. What about if I have never been in love, or never be loved? I started feeling very depressed. It seems that whole journey has been wasted.

Love is the reason for us to come to the world. Love is the drive for us to achieve in life, and love is the courage for us to face the challenges, and love is the comfort when we fail.

Some people are living in waterfront houses, but feeling depressed and lonely, because they have no partners, no love.

Some people live in a small unit with warm lights around, and the partner in arms, they feel content, calm and happy.

The key to make us happy is not where we are. It is whom we are with. This fact can be well recognized by those who have lost love. Particularly as we grow older, we can even relate more to this fact. We all know that the biggest discrimination in this society is to old people. They have been rejected to work. Their value of existence is disappearing. They also face many personal challenges. Being with someone we love, all these problems no longer bother us. We can live in our own world and enjoy our own lives. That is why old couples walking in the street hands in hands always attract attention. Almost everyone will say: when I get old, I wish I could have someone like this.

Many people agree that love is important for our lives. However they have not courage to stretch their hands out to reach love, because the hands may get burnt. The older as we get, more fears we have. A strong deep inner voice is roaring: I do not want to be hurt again!

Yes, emotional hurt is unbearable and destructive. It affects our entire life, our relationship with other people, our business and career. The worst damage is it destroys our self-esteem. After being hurt, we start to have so much doubt about ourselves. It takes much longer time for people to heel from emotional hurts than the hurts from other areas of life. To some people it can even be a life-long heeling process.

In order not to be hurt again, sometimes we just want to give up: I had enough. I can find happiness without a partner. We start developing hobbies and interests. We start joining different clubs. We are buying expensive gifts, luxury cars for ourselves. Unfortunately, all these efforts can only work in a short time. After a while we start feeling lonely again, just like a child who has roomful toys, playing by himself. It is so boring. We have nobody to share. It can be even more sad and scary if we really put a full-stop mark at our love life while we are still capable to obtain it.

Action kills fear. Love is too important for our lives to give up. Every one of us deserves to be in a loving, caring and harmonious relationship. The key is never giving up.

Through ten years of helping men and women to find their partners, I did lot of observation and study, including reading books, talking to clients, and personally involved in relationship. It has surprised me that how easy we can have love if we have right attitude and right knowledge, the knowledge of relationship psychology, the knowledge of human nature and the knowledge of different personalities, and the knowledge of communication skills.

Hundreds of people are suffering every day from the emotional pain. They are struggling for support, information. Unfortunately apart from the expensive psychological counseling service, they are helpless. The worst thing is that society has not provided enough training and education to teach people how to prevent mistakes before the mistakes have been done. Media dose not help with encouraging stories. Bad news spreads so quick. People are depressed and despair.

Since 1991, I started writing stories for one of the most popular Chinese magazines in Sydney. As the experience grows, my writing continues. From 1997, I started a weekly column in one of the major Chinese newspaper in Sydney, with the name of "Eva's Whispering Corner". Those hundreds of articles are part of relationship menu, including my suggestion for getting out emotional pain, inner-judgment of our future partners, cultural difference, etc.

As part of my contribution, I would like to translate all those articles into English language for the men and women who are struggling in the relationship, and who are desperate for love. Love is too good to ignore. Love is too beautiful to live without.