Because it is natural or they are driven by emotion, or both, if they love their men, most women feel an urge to keep giving to them.

For example, in a department store you will see more women in the men's department than men in the woman's department. This is because most women like to look around for their husbands, or boy friends. Sometimes they just look, but often they cannot help buying something for their man if they think it will suit him. Women shopping for men are not trying to impress them, it is just natural, while men rarely shop for their woman unless for a special occasion or they are in the process of chasing her.

Take Jane for example, she is in a very happy relationship and loves her man. One day she told me that she spent $400 dollars buying cloths for him, including underwear, shirts, trousers, shoes, and so on. She was very proud of herself that she had bought a new look for her boy friend.

But giving like this can also be a woman's way of changing her man to the way she wants, just like a mother wants her child to be the person she desires them to be. Women want their men to be the best, therefore, when they find that he is not yet the best, they start their project of changing.

They believe anything can be achieved with love and this is when the project becomes serious. It is not limited to just changing his way of dressing, but will extend to his life-style, habits and interests. Women may even try to reach their man's work and career. They will attempt to teach their men how to do the work properly and even push him to change his career to the job, or industry she feels happy about.

Do not be surprised if your man misunderstands your good intentions and resents your interference, most men hate to be changed by women and it is one of the major reasons many single men hesitate to get married, or even to live with their girl friends.

Woman changing men can turn them rebellious, defensive, and resentful. Through the process of this changing a man's character may be altered because his freedom and space have been stolen, but the most important thing is that his ego has been challenged. When a woman tries to change her man's way of dressing he can only assume that she is not happy with his style. Just as when a woman tries to change a man's career, he will immediately feel that she does not think him capable.

However, most men do not like confrontation so, to make thing easier for everyone, they will verbally go along with her "advice", but physically do nothing. Naturally, this will result in the women increasing the pressure and pushing the change. While he feels increasingly upset by her efforts, she does not understand what he can be upset about.

Instead of feeling resentful, men need to understand that her intention is not selfish at all, women regard changing their men as part of loving and giving. They genuinely want the best for their men. Also, men do not need to be too sensitive about what women say, it may be just a suggestion instead of an attempt to change them.

I believe every one of us has room to improve in terms of our presentation, our habits, our life styles and our careers, as long as the suggestions are not too extreme. This kind of improvement applies to women, too and men can also suggest the best for their women, although they will not do it very often.

Most of the problem can be overcome through better communications. Men need to learn how to communicate with their women, which usually is the difficult for men, but emotional openness is very important for women and when men do communicate she will feel trusted and respected. There is nothing wrong for a man to explain the importance to him of keeping certain habits, or why he is the way he is. Usually a woman's heart softens when she listens to her man's stories and most women will be reasonable when they know why.

However, when a woman becomes unreasonably bossy and dominating, her man should stand up for himself instead of quietly accumulating his anger. No matter how much in love, a man should not compromise his individuality or the things that are important for him. If a man easily gives up his principle to please his girlfriend early in the relationship, he will have no chance to avoid being changed later on and, human weakness being what it is, she will take it for granted that she is the boss.