After meeting a woman, a man almost knows whether this woman can be wife material or not. Once that decision is made, a man doesn't easily change his mind. After the decision is made, some men may stop seeing the woman in question. But some men would still be interested in a casual relationship until they've found the wife material. I have seen many women have fallen in love with a man, but the relationship has no depth. They knew it might not work out, but since having invested lot of time and emotion, they do not give up. They almost allow the men take advantage of their emotional weakness.
It is very hurting and frustrating.
There are a few messages present at the early stages of a relationship that might help a woman to judge whether this man is interested in long-term commitment, or short-term fun:
a. When a man recognizes the long-term potential with a woman, he will deliberately take it slowly. Quite often he will control himself to meet the woman once or twice a week, instead of every day. He will ring the woman couple of times a week, instead of every minute. He will be very careful about what he says.
After the initial dating, a woman should be cautious if a man instantly gets excited, ringing every minute, wanting to see her every day, telling her he loves her. It can be the indication that he may just want to take her to the bed.
b. When a man is serious about the relationship, he will always have the enthusiasm to organize dates and discuss with the girl friend. It is in his interests to find out what the girl friend would like to do.
It can be a warning sign when a man doesn't have much enthusiasm for going out, but just staying home with the girl friend, having a lot of sex.
c. When a man wants to develop a serious relationship, he will organize each meeting properly, also giving her plenty notice to prepare. He will try to keep his weekend free for her, particularly Saturday nights.
A woman should be cautious if a man always invites her out at the last minute. She shall be extremely careful when the man hardly invites her out on Saturdays, or if his phone is hardly available on weekends. It can mean that he may have some other people in his life, or he is not interested in a long-term relationship with her.
d. When a man is interested in long-term relationship, he will use different ways of communicating. He will have no problem in talking about his interests in the relationship. He will not avoid talking about his plans for the future. He will be open and honest when talking about his career, finance, family and friends.
e. When a man is genuine He will also be very interested in the girl friend's life, career, family, friends. He will be listening carefully when she talks about that. He will ask questions about them. He will also be interested in meeting her family and friends, particularly her children. He wants to know whether they will like him, or whether he can fit in.
f. When a man is interested in a long-term relationship with a woman, he will also introduce his girl friend to his friends and family. He will hesitate if he knows that his girl friend is not comfortable enough to meet them, or get along with them. If a man is always hesitating to mix his girl friend with his friends and family, it can be a sign that he is hesitant about his future with this woman. He doesn't want to open the relationship.
Men Do Talk About Their Emotion Easily
In most of relationships, women are always the ones to initiate the discussion about their emotions. Women just love to talk about them, and they love to be told all the time that they are loved. However quite often women are very disappointed because their boy friends, or husbands don't talk about it much. I have received lot of complaints from women about this. The common complaint is why men can't just say: 'I love you' to make women happy.
One of the natural tendencies for men is that they have difficulty in talking about their emotions when they are happy, or not happy in the relationship. They have been brought up to hold their emotions inside; otherwise it can be too effeminate. Sometimes they feel much easier doing things to show emotions, rather than saying it,
like taking women to nice places, buying presents for them, helping them with some problems, and touching them physically (non-sexual) to show the affection.
When women don't understand these men's natural tendencies, they may continue to constantly push men to talk about their emotions. Many men get nervous when their girlfriends say: we need to talk. They wonder whether they have made some mistakes, or done something wrong. It doesn't help them to talk about their emotions, but, rather, it makes them feel insecure.
So women need to judge the level of commitment by observing what men are doing to them more than by how men are talking about them, or talking about their emotions. Sometimes playboys talk nicely about their emotions, or even talk about love very quickly. Because they understand women, they want to take them to bed as soon as possible.
